Does this sound familiar?
Most couples do not come to therapy because they stopped caring. They come because caring started to feel like hard work.
- You have the same fight on repeat, and neither of you can remember how it started.
- One of you pushes to talk it out while the other shuts down or walks away.
- You feel more like roommates or co-managers of a household than partners.
- Small comments land like big attacks, and you both end up defending instead of listening.
- Trust was broken, and you are not sure how to rebuild it, or whether you can.
- Moving in together, a new baby, a new job, or a move to Canada has changed everything between you.
- Physical and emotional closeness has faded, and talking about it feels impossible.
- You come from different cultures, languages, or families, and some things keep getting lost in translation.
If you recognised yourselves here, you are not failing. You are stuck, and stuck is something you can work through together.
What couples work on in therapy
Every relationship is different, so sessions are shaped around what is happening between the two of you. Common reasons couples reach out include:
Communication
Learning to say what you actually mean, and to hear what your partner is really asking for underneath the words.
Conflict that keeps repeating
Understanding the pattern you get caught in, so arguments can cool down sooner and end with repair instead of distance.
Trust and infidelity
A careful, non-judgemental space to talk about what happened, make room for each person's hurt, and decide what rebuilding could look like.
Moving in and cohabitation
Chores, money, space, and routines can turn into daily friction. We explore this more in our article on why couples fight after moving in.
Life transitions
New jobs, new cities, new parents, aging family members, or immigration. Big changes put pressure on even strong relationships.
Intimacy and disconnection
When closeness has faded, therapy can help you talk about it honestly and gently, without blame.
Cultural and bilingual couples
Different backgrounds bring richness and sometimes misunderstanding. Sessions can be held in English or Spanish, so both partners can express themselves fully.
If the struggle is more about saying no, people-pleasing, or keeping your own needs in view, our individual therapy for boundaries and relationships may also help.
How online couples therapy works
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Free 15-minute consult
A short video call with one or both of you to talk about what is going on, ask questions, and see if it feels like a good fit.
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Confidential online intake
You each complete a secure intake form online, so your therapist understands both perspectives before you meet.
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Your first session together
Join by secure video from home, or from two different locations anywhere in Ontario. Sessions are 50 minutes, with 75-minute extended sessions available.
Many couples find it easier to open up from the comfort of home, and online sessions mean no commute, no babysitter scramble, and no sitting in a waiting room together after a hard week. Curious about the evidence? Read is virtual therapy as effective as in-person. We see clients online across Ontario, and in-person sessions can be discussed when they are truly needed.
Meet your couples therapist
Agustina Jorquera, Ed.D., M.Ed., RP
Registered Psychotherapist (CRPO) · English & Spanish
Agustina works with adolescents, adults, and couples. In couples therapy, she helps people navigate conflict effectively, strengthen communication, and deepen emotional connection, while making room for each person's experience.
Her approach is relational and integrative, drawing on psychodynamic and attachment-based perspectives alongside practical tools from CBT and DBT. She holds a doctorate (Ed.D.) and a master's degree (M.Ed.) in counselling psychology and psychotherapy from the University of Toronto, and brings approximately 10 years of clinical experience in hospital programs and private practice.
Terapia de pareja en español
Para muchas parejas, los temas más importantes se sienten más naturales en su propio idioma. Ofrecemos terapia de pareja en español, en línea en todo Ontario. Conozca más sobre nuestra terapia en español.
Fees and insurance receipts
For current session rates, see our fees page. The 15-minute consultation is always free.
We provide receipts you can submit to your extended health plan. Receipts include your therapist's credentials and CRPO registration information. Many plans cover services by Registered Psychotherapists, but coverage of couples sessions varies, so please check your plan before you begin. We do not direct bill insurance companies.
A note on safety
Couples therapy may not be appropriate when there is abuse, violence, or a partner feels afraid. In those situations, individual support is often the safer first step. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. For 24/7 support in Ontario, contact the Assaulted Women's Helpline at 1-866-863-0511 (awhl.org), or call or text 9-8-8 for the Suicide Crisis Helpline. Buena Vita Therapy is not an emergency crisis service.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Counselling
Helpful reading
External resources: Research on relationships from The Gottman Institute · Verify any therapist's registration with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO)